Comments on: Day 28 – How to Say It — Receiving Feedback (#31days)

By: Christy

Christy — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 16:10:00 +0000

In reply to mary beth. Hi Mary Beth, So glad you enjoyed the post. I'm with you on the defensiveness. How do you handle it when you feel that starting to happen?

By: Christy

Christy — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 16:09:24 +0000

In reply to Anastasia Rose. Hi Anastasia, Glad you enjoyed that advice. I know what you mean about being taken off guard and surprises. I think that's a control thing. :) I'm working on slowing down my response and then asking a question. Easier said than done. What are you finding helpful?

By: Christy

Christy — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 16:07:53 +0000

In reply to Julie Clark.

Hi Julie, Thanks for the feedback. 🙂 I’m with you on the defensiveness thing…it’s so easy to fall into that! I was just talking about it yesterday (with my therapist! :)) and she suggested I really practice slowing down my responses when I feel myself getting defensive. I will often react quickly with not the best response, when what I really need to do is step back, breathe and wait a moment before replying. And then reply with a question to help me understand them better. I’m going to try that. 🙂 How do you handle it?

By: Christy

Christy — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 16:05:53 +0000

In reply to Missy. Thanks Missy, so glad you liked the ideas and found them helpful. Which questions do you find yourself using to deepen your understanding and relationships?

By: Missy

Missy — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 01:19:13 +0000

Christy, these are such good questions to ask in a number of different life-circumstances. Relationships, alone, would do well to assume the best. Asking “What gives you that impression?” is a great question to spark deeper understanding between co-workers, relatives, and friends. Great thoughts here.

By: Julie Clark

Julie Clark — Tue, 28 Oct 2014 23:27:25 +0000

I love your perfect and succinct advice in receiving feedback. I really struggle with receiving feedback, becoming defensive and down on myself if the feedback is negative and either prideful or not knowing how to respond if the feedback is positive. I now have new “tools in my toolbox” to handle this. Thank you!

By: Anastasia Rose

Anastasia Rose — Tue, 28 Oct 2014 23:10:26 +0000

That’s such perfect advice! My problem is usually just that i don’t respond well to being caught off guard. If I know I’m going to be getting constructive criticism, I take it well. But I’m not someone who likes surprises, and if I don’t have some warning, I space out and have difficulty handling it well. I guess it’s something to work on.

Anastasia Rose
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By: mary beth

mary beth — Tue, 28 Oct 2014 22:31:35 +0000

love it. love the “giving grace” advice. so hard for me as I want to ruminate on how I can be better. Also, appreciate the advice to buy some time. If I do that, I’m usually much saner and open. If I feel at all disapproved of, my defensiveness kicks in. thanks for this.

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